That said, I do believe that sheer will does have the power to change perspectives and emotions. Nate and I were watching a Gilmore Girls rerun the other day (because HE wanted to, thankyouverymuch. Dude is kind of obsessed with GG, so no essentialist comments about chick shows, okay?), and the character Lorelai made a little speech addressing this very issue. Her mother was being disparaging about her couch. (Big issues being dealt with here, I know, but the sentiment is still good.) Here's how the covo went:
EMILY: Well, this couch is terrible.
LORELAI: Okay, good, you think the couch is terrible. Now, at one point in my life, you saying a couch that I carefully picked out and had to pay off over eight months is terrible might have hurt my feelings, but not anymore.
EMILY: Why not?
LORELAI: Because one day, I decided that instead of being hurt and upset by your disapproval, I'm gonna be amused. I'm gonna find it funny. I'm even going to take a little bit of pleasure in it.
EMILY: You take pleasure in my disapproval?
LORELAI: I encourage it sometimes just for a laugh.
That's good mental heath, right there. Assholes are always going to exist. And they're going to make their little asshole comments and try to get your goat, and that sort of shit works on me, but not always, because sometimes, I'm able to just ignore it. Hurray.
Anyway. Enough of that. Today I'm going to do something a little different on the blog, thanks to my web friend J over at JellyJules, who participated in a simple meme where someone gives you a list of five words and you write about each one. She did it, I commented, and she gave me five words of my own to write about, so here goes:
On Gilmore Girls, in season one, there was a cat named Cinnamon. I've also known a dog named Cinnamon. Kind of unfortunate, since I also know a person named Cinnamon and it must annoy the heck out of her to have a name that people often reserve for pets.
In regards to actual cinnamon: I like it, but it's a little weird. I mean, it's bark, amirite?
Seriously, I WISH karma was a real thing. The idea that there's going to be some sort of cosmic reckoning for our behaviour is nice one. Alas, in my experience, the jerks rarely get their due, and nice people suffer all sorts of crap and then we all die and that's it. I'd love to believe that's not the way it is, but I don't, really.
Thanks for giving me the list, J. :) Was fun.