In general, I don't think feeling good has a lot to do with will power. Some people DO think that. They're the sort of people who tell you to "smile" and "cheer up" when you're feeling less than cheery. (I'm not crazy about those people.)

That said, I do believe that sheer will does have the power to change perspectives and emotions. Nate and I were watching a Gilmore Girls rerun the other day (because HE wanted to, thankyouverymuch. Dude is kind of obsessed with GG, so no essentialist comments about chick shows, okay?), and the character Lorelai made a little speech addressing this very issue. Her mother was being disparaging about her couch. (Big issues being dealt with here, I know, but the sentiment is still good.) Here's how the covo went:

EMILY: Well, this couch is terrible.
LORELAI: Okay, good, you think the couch is terrible. Now, at one point in my life, you saying a couch that I carefully picked out and had to pay off over eight months is terrible might have hurt my feelings, but not anymore.
EMILY: Why not?
LORELAI: Because one day, I decided that instead of being hurt and upset by your disapproval, I'm gonna be amused. I'm gonna find it funny. I'm even going to take a little bit of pleasure in it.
EMILY: You take pleasure in my disapproval?
LORELAI: I encourage it sometimes just for a laugh.

That's good mental heath, right there. Assholes are always going to exist. And they're going to make their little asshole comments and try to get your goat, and that sort of shit works on me, but not always, because sometimes, I'm able to just ignore it. Hurray.

Anyway. Enough of that. Today I'm going to do something a little different on the blog, thanks to my web friend J over at JellyJules, who participated in a simple meme where someone gives you a list of five words and you write about each one. She did it, I commented, and she gave me five words of my own to write about, so here goes:

1. Cinnamon

On Gilmore Girls, in season one, there was a cat named Cinnamon. I've also known a dog named Cinnamon. Kind of unfortunate, since I also know a person named Cinnamon and it must annoy the heck out of her to have a name that people often reserve for pets.

In regards to actual cinnamon: I like it, but it's a little weird. I mean, it's bark, amirite?

2. Energy
Energy, eh? I don't have much of it these days. Emotional exhaustion leads to physical exhaustion in my experience. Oddly, when I was younger, being angry or upset seemed to charge me up, which is probably why I was a much better athlete back in the day. These days, I NEVER use rage energy to run (or do anything else for that matter). When something angers or upsets me, most often, what I feel is an overwhelming desire to take a nap.

3. Foppish
Foppish is a funny word. I like it. For some reason, I instinctively read it as an insult, but I don't know that there's anything inherently insulting about it. I suppose it was insulting in the 1600s, but does it have to be insulting today? I mean, what's wrong with being a little foppish? Most of the men I know could do with a little foppifying, in my opinion (as lovely as their stained tee shirts and lovely aromas are). So yeah. I enjoy foppishness, personally. Fop it up.

4. Karma
I hear it's a bitch. But then, you might have heard that I'm a bitch too. So don't believe everything you hear, I guess. (Note: I don't really want to condone use of the word bitch, but there was really no way to make that joke without using it.)

Seriously, I WISH karma was a real thing. The idea that there's going to be some sort of cosmic reckoning for our behaviour is nice one. Alas, in my experience, the jerks rarely get their due, and nice people suffer all sorts of crap and then we all die and that's it. I'd love to believe that's not the way it is, but I don't, really.

5. Pendant
When I was a little girl, my mother regularly wore a vintage amethyst pendant on a long gold chain. Then, suddenly, she didn't. I don't know if she lost it or what, but sometimes I think I've been looking for that pendant -- or rather, for a pendant that I can wear permanently, that feels sort of like that one -- for most of my life.

Thanks for giving me the list, J. :) Was fun. 


09/06/2012 17:28

5 x 5? I love you for quoting Faith. Love.
I love your husband for being addicted to Gilmore Girls. I never watched it when it was originally on (it was on against Buffy, after all), but very recently got hooked. It was on Soapnet for awhile, right during lunch (I work from home), but then our cable company dropped Soapnet, so I started getting the DVDs from the library, until I watched the whole series. Twice. I know, lame.

Foppish vs. Metrosexual. Compare and contrast. :)

Thanks for playing!


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